I have never seen myself asking for help or feeling as though I would
ever be able to swallow my pride enough to accept it, but when you
have children that all changes.  Our story starts about seven years
ago when we started fostering a 7 year old little girl, she had been
raped and sodomized by her step father since she was five and she
finally got up the courage to tell someone.  They in turn told the
school counselor and she told her mother.  Her mother didn't believe
her even after their was SEVERAL pieces of irrefutable proof (medical,
physical, and logical).  So she was given to us to care for since no
one in her family could take her.  She had several members of her
birth fathers family that lived here in town but none we able to care
for her.  (her birth father was an alcoholic that died in a violent,
alcohol-related car crash when she was five)  The mother never
believed her and she said that she never wanted her back- hard for any
parent to fathom I know!

This little girl went on the stand in front of a jury at the age of
eight and put him away till she was eighteen.  Not long enough but
hopefully someone has helped him learn his lesson in  prison.  At the
age of 81/2 we began the process to adopt her since we had known for
sometime that she was brought into our lives to be our daughter.  Then
social services tried to send her to relatives that she didn't even
know down in Oklahoma-we live in Wisconsin and so do the relatives
that she has known all her life.  We ended up getting a lawyer and
spending every dime (30,000) on keeping our daughter and doing the
right thing for her.   I would spend it all again if I had to!

Thank the Lord that it turned out the way it did and we got to keep
our daughter and she still has great relationships with her birth
fathers family here in town.  So we now have a very extended family.
She has been going to therapy for the last seven years - sometimes as
many as 10 times a month- she has come so far  and  I am very proud of
her.   We are now down to twice a month!

In January 08 my husband - her father- asked for a divorce two days
after my birthday.  I didn't even know that we were having problems.
He wants to do nothing to try to work it out and he is just done.  No
explaination what-so-ever?  We had just moved into a large old farm
house that we searched for for a year.  He said that he wanted to be
buried in the back yard when he died and that we were never moving
again.

Now our lives are in upheaval - not only do we have our oldest
daughter but we have a four year old also.  Our oldest daughter has
extreme issues with anxiety and my four year old needs stability.  C -
our oldest - had a hard time even moving to this house since the old
house was the first real safe home that she had ever had.  Now she
doesn't want to leave here since she was just starting to "put down
roots" again and doesn't want to leave.  Her father says that divorce
won't hurt the kids and he is putting them smack in the middle. He is
using them as he sees fit to hurt me and to influence them.  He was
removed from the house afer throwing me around in our room in front of
the kids and also one of our foster children at the time.

I don't make enough money to save our house but it is one of the
things that my daughter has asked of me.  Mom can I live with you and
just visit Dad - Mom can we stay in our house I can't go through
anything else I have already been through too much.  These are her
requests and I am doing everything possible to achieve them.  That is
where my friends Tiellan & ChiaPet come in they said to post the story
on this site and see if we can pass it along to people that would be
willing to help even in the smallest way would be appreciated more
than you could ever know!

So as it stands our daughter now has "lost" three fathers in her short
13 years and these unfortunately were the years that we were the most
concerned about -boys, relationships, and just growing up.  Her
therapist and I have been working towards them forever and now she has
this to deal with.  I have been writing letters to strangers and
anyone that I know to ask for help-so far to no avail -but I refuse to
give up the stakes are just too high.  My children are depending on me
and I refuse to let them down anymore than they already have been.

My Soon to be X has not paid a dime since he left in January and he
says that he plans to not have to and that his lawyer is going to see
that I lose everything.  How do we go from 13 years to this I have NO
idea.  I know that blind faith is what I am asking for in the fact
that I am telling you the truth but please if you can find it in your
hearts to help us save our house and our lives then we will be forever
grateful.  We own about 212,000.00 on the mortgage and with me already
working three jobs to try to save us there is not much else I can do
but pray.  I hope that this finds itself into the hands of the right
people and that they can help us out.  If you can contributions are
welcomed through my paypal account with my email -
nanireissac@gmail.com.

Thanks LakenLee